Jorge Bucay (born 1949) is a gestalt psychotherapist, psychodramatist, and writer from Argentina. His books have sold more than 2 million copies around the world, and have been translated into more than seventeen languages. Here we have some parts of the book. (come on, it’s not that long!) I hope you find something interesting in here ” It is very difficult for someone to speak for what is happening to himself, for what he needs or feels.
Everyone always want to talk for the other. Many couples break up because they believe that with someone else things would be different and then they face up the same difficulties and what has changed is only the person. Difficulties are integral part of the way of love. Auralia Full Version. The solution could be to give up on the fantasy of being always in love and without conflicts. Reality becomes better when we decide to enjoy what we can, instead of suffering because of an illusion that can’t come true. Relationship helps our personal development, to become better persons, to know ourself better.
Therefore it worths the effort. It worths the torment and the pain we have to deal. And all of these are worthing, because when we have to get over them, we will not be the same anymore. We will be more conscious, we will feel more integrated.
The relationship doesn’t save us from anything: it shouldn’t save us from anything. Many people are looking for a partner as a mean to solve their problems.
This means that we place ourselves before we can think. Loving Oneself With Open Eyes, Jorge Bucay. I tried to find for you a link for the english edition.
Internet Download Manager 5.20 Build 1 on this page. They believe that a close relationship will cure their anxieties, boredom, lack of meaning of life. They hope that the relationship will fill their gaps. What a mistake.
When I choose a partner having these expectations, I inevitably end up to hate this person who doesn’t give me what I was expected. Then I’ll try to find another one, another oneor decide to spend my life grumbling for my luck.So, the point is to make my life without waiting someone else to do that for me. The thought that being in love will save us, will solve all our problems and will offer us a constant state of happiness or security, can only keep us trapped in fantasies and illusions, as it also weakens the original power of love, which knows how to transform us. And nothing is more enlightening from then on. There is nothing more special than experiencing your own transformation beside the one you love. Instead of looking for shelter in a relationship, we could accept the stimulating force that awakens us of dormancy and make us come into direct contact with life. This is the meaning of relationship: not the salvation but the contact.